Heartbreak is all too familiar to Grammy nominated singer-songwriter Elle Varner, who went through a very public breakup that inspired her upcoming album, Four Letter Word. The key to moving on is moving past it, and Varner has done just that. She recently spoke to ESSENCE.com about how she survived such a brutal breakup and began to heal her heart.
ESSENCE: What has been the biggest lesson you’ve learned from heartbreak?
That you can love someone as much as you want and they can love you as much as they want but it doesn’t always mean that your relationship is going to work or that you’re right for each other. What I went through post break up was a sad time for me, kind of a darker time for me, but I had to go through that to really come back as a complete woman. It takes strength and it takes courage and that’s my message to all the women out there. Men too!
ESSENCE: How did you get your heart to heal after your breakup?
I really took that time to myself. It was a choice. I could go on the rebound, I could jump into something and put a Band-Aid on it or I could actually figure out what this means on a bigger scale and that has nothing to do with anyone else but me. So that was my choice. Sometimes we want to be in a relationship when we’re not really ready.